Showing posts from 2018

The other “C”

Recently John and I have been going through the book by Jordan Peterson, “Twelve Rules for Life: An antidote to Chaos”. He is a Canadian professor of psychology at the University of Toronto, and now a world wide speaker. Tremendous perspective, practicality, and permission to do right and be the best you can while you can. Of course so much more but worth our time to read, listen to, interact and take away what’s worth keeping. Which is a fair amount. A wait for the doctor and time of reflection There are more developments in the cancer chaos of our lives. It is “our” cancer. We are one in it. John asked this morning if what he is dealing with is harder than what I am going through in this journey. Let me think. In some ways yes, and the other he owns that part that is messing with his body. And yet when I watch and listen and help, I will feel a deep hurt. Chemo is once again knocking at the door and will take place within the next week or so. Chaos to h

Mary's Songs

Mary's Songs Written and Sung by Mary Recording by Jamison Stokdyk Feel free to copy, download, and share with others   1. Brother to Sister   2. The Answer  3. Jesus   4. Long Ago   5. Give Thanks to The Lord   6. He Did It   7. The Stars Never Fail   8. Peter   9. Benjamin's Lullaby 10. Radiant With Joy 11. The Vine 12. He's Coming Back 13. Put This On 14. Peter Do You Love Me 15. The Lighthouse      16. Sunshine and Daffodils 17. Down By The River 18. Give Thanks Sound Track

So Much Info So LittleTime

I have come to a different kind of “throwing up my hands”. It is more of an omission to myself that I don’t have the knowledge nor expertise to put together a “cancer cure”program. I admit I don’t know that. We are faced with so many answers to John’s cancer. Whether it’s a friend that shares what they read on a cancer cure or even the access I have myself to articles, summits, webinars, on natural healing. All interesting, some frustrating, many financially undoable. The mega blah blah blah of the airwaves. However, I’m not responsible for John’s death. But I do have the privilege to assist his living. His quality of living. For one minute one day at a time. In those moments or hours of pain to reach out and use my hands to administer the treatments. Like oil rubs carefully massaged to his aching back and feet. I know how to do that! I can do that! I know it puts him in a state of much-needed relaxation.  I offer him my half of our failing memories dedicated to remembering

Our Cancer Journey

“No one takes the journey alone. At least no one should” A quote from someone famous. Friends and family have been asking so we thought we need to bring people up to date on Johns cancer condition. Starting in March of 2016: Tumor removal on the spine Stage 4.4 cancer Nerve paralysis to his lower body Learning to walk again Chemo started soon after his return home from the hospital Hormone shots every few months to keep the testosterone from feeding the cancer A summer and part of fall “dealing”with the effects of chemo as well as getting on his feet again Benefiting from the good shape he was in that affected his recovery in a positive way. Physical therapy appointments Scans, blood tests, MRIs, etc, wash, rinse ...repeat Scary situations sending us to the emergency rooms and more tests. Caring staff wherever we landed And now for the here and now. The PSA has been climbing again. Little climbs are watchable. Big jumps are cause for concern and evidently enough now

Anniversary Zone

A couple weeks before and after an anniversary we have what we call the anniversary zone. We do this because too often the day of celebration is interrupted by something unexpected.(We do this for birthdays too.) This year for our anniversary zone we decided to do all we can eat restaurants. Of course a Frugal Prosumer’s, all you can eat restaurant has a slightly different definition. Mary calls it all you care to eat or want to eat which adds up to a few bucks a piece. The locations require very little of you socially or economically yet are relaxing. We had so much fun doing this we thought we would just make a video about it.

Making a Garden Cart Part 2

Well, here is the long awaited part two of Mary makes a cart. And actually John has used the time well to come up with this ingenious design which has been refined from other plans. The benefits of this cart ? Low cost This particular one is lower in design so it will accommodate my puny muscular strength when lifting five gallon buckets onto it. It’s fairly easy to make  It is very easy to handle This one fits through doors And other benefits I will remember when this is posted, but may just show up in another video. Toodles Here is the link to part 1:

Comfrey poultice

This is actually the second day of poulticing it. The first day John was too busy crying and I was too busy screaming. Not really. We didn’t think of doing a video until the second day. Before we thought of the poultice we did the immediate application of an ice bag to the area and elevating. So remember that. How long did I leave it on each time?  About 10 to 15 minutes. Then reapply in an hour. You can just put the poultice in a plastic bag and refrigerate it as ours was still mushy wet. Comfrey has been our friend for many a year. I use it in my healing salve as well as poultices . Hop on the internet and start your research of this fantastic plant.

How a Frugal Prosumer Heats His House for Free

This is an article John & I wrote back in 2009. It is a true story of real people. The names have been changed as some people get their undies in a bundle and try to cause trouble for those who are different and do things out of the ordinary. This is a story about Prosumer, his wife, FinalFrontier, and their high school aged son, WildThing and how they live a prosumer lifestyle. These are all true stories that could be taking place in a neighborhood near you. Some of the facts and figures have been adjusted to protect the identity and privacy of the individuals mentioned and to minimize the opportunity for the master consumers to silence the voices of the master prosumers. Today we are going to take a peek at how TheProsumers heat their house for free. No! That is, how they get paid to heat their house and get a tax break for doing it! To be a master prosumer you need to develop the habit of not only killing two birds with one stone, but killing a dozen birds with half a st

How to Build an Energy Efficent House

Thinking of building a house or remodeling. Here are some principles for useing very little energy? Here’s the details Extremely Well Insulated – Around all exterior surfaces, including below ground. Virtually Airtight Construction – The building envelope in a Passive House is extremely airtight in order to prevent the infiltration of outside air and loss of inside, heated, conditioned air. The envelope is measured and tested with a blower-door test during and after construction to ensure it meets this rigorous requirement Thermal Bridge Free Construction – Stops the transfer of heat and cold in the wall assemblies by breaking the thermal bridge. An easy way to understand this is that the cold air in winter (that you might feel on a window) is stopped from coming into the home and hot air or heat is stopped from transferring out of the house. Mechanical Ventilation – Accomplished by a constant supply of fresh, filtered outside air that is brought into the home while the st

Cutting mango

It’s mango season and m angos are one of our favorite fruits.  Growing  up in Taiwan John fondly remembers the huge mango tree he had in his back yard.  When we lived in Pakistan "the mango man" would come several times a week with a basket of mangos for sale. Huge, delicious mangos and so many varieties. We have tried many different ways of cutting and serving mangos but this is one of the simplest. But be sure you have a very sharp knife. We use the amazing Rada knife sharpener. John has filleted a lot of fish so he thought he would try the same technique on a mango. Works nice. So fillet a mango and do the tango. A fancy way to serve a mango. Instead of cutting through the skin, cut to the skin and then cut crosswise. Then turn the mango inside out.

Wild Leek Festival 2018

We have been hosting the leek festival for about 20 years. Where the word festival might imply huge numbers of people, to us the word meant fun, discovery, foraging, experimenting and introducing people to one of the first spring tonics to appear. It always begins with whomever wants to pick leeks to take home with them. They come an hour earlier and head out to the woods to harvest. While they are gone, the other guests arrive with their dishes to share. The potluck will have several dishes prepared with the leek leaves and bulbs. But we aren’t leek snobs so any culinary delight is welcome. I, mary, prepare the greens John and I picked the day before so everyone can have a taste. They are soooooo yummy. These young greens are sweet and mildly garlicky. I simply chop them up and stir fry them in our big cast iron pan with some butter. Uuuuu la la. Another powerful spring green is nettles. I make a mild and pleasing tea with the leaves. Another way we have used leeks is to pickle

Mary Picks Violets

Our lawn is full of violets.   They are so full of vitamins that some people call them natures vitamin pills. Recently, I made a syrup with the flowers. I also make an eye cream (for the skin around the eyes. Rubbing it on your eyeballs could impair your sight don’t ya know?) from the flowers and leaves. Oh and don’t forget to nibble as you go when you are harvesting.